Self-Esteem

We all know that as a group Fruheads are egomaniacs with no self esteem problems.



OK stop laughing



The reality is that we often praises others then runourselves down. I have a challenge for you. Say three nice things about yourself. Not your friends, not the people you admire about yourself. Yes I mean you. You know who you are and if you don't I'll give you the look of disapproval that Giles gives Buffy.

1. I'm intelligent
2. I'm a good friend
3. I'm a good teacher

Say three nice things about yourself.

1. I'm good enough.
2. I'm smart enough.
3. And doggone it, people like me.

Hee hee.. someone just put on the power wall  "It amuses me that someone who abuses her liver as much as Anni does is so particular about dental hygiene." and I wrote out a list of things I do other than abuse my liver.. So here it is!

I don't eat yogurt
I play bass
For the most part I'm a nice person
I think of others before myself

Yay for edit! and not being able to count to 3!! *actually I just finished reading the start of this topic, and noticed that he said 3 things.. although I have 4 now.. but they are 4 good things!

> I don't eat yogurt

All right! Now that's a good vegetarian - yeast cultures are life, too! ;-)

yes they are! although... I still eat foods containing yeast.

yeast killer!!!!!!!!!

YOU SICKO!

yeast murderer!!! whats this fruworld comming to?

*ashamed*

I always eat my vegitables

....

dude. I can't think of any more right now.

yeast murderers make baby jesus cry. :-(

Would all you please do your own list so I can be a jerk also?

Well, I have no problems with self-esteem. Wasn't always the case, but now I have very high self esteem.

So,

1. I'm intelligent and hardworking. 2. I'm good at what I do. 3. I am a good husband.

1. I'm smart 2. I'm a loyal friend 3. I'm a good cook

has anyone else noticed the running theme of 'being smart'. I think a lot of what draws FHDCers together is having been only accepted in arenas where there intelligence was praised. not particularly surprising, we're all geeks! anyway. why i'm so great? well, there are a million reasons but I guess if I have to make a list of 2-dimentional virtues:

1. I suck the marrow out of life! I get stupidly enthusiastic about little things and that rubs off on people (and makes many of them run scared)

2. I'd like to think that I look for the 'inner light' in people. Instead of just judging them based on one experience I'll look for the hidden good qualities (note I don't always succeed, but I'd like to think i do this)

3. and to strengthen my priding themselves on being smart FHDCers correlation I'll say ' I'm fuckin' brilliant!'  (though not usually that vocal about it in public)

smart, creative, cute, artistic, funny...

Just trying to help ;)

1: creative

2: smart (random trivia)

3: god

 

You forgot "So damn sexy everyone wants to run for presidency with me."

1: uhmm

2: err

3: i'll have another go at this later

grrr....

okay, this is tricky...

1. I do my best to always *be* myself in the truest and deepest sense. I do not strive to know myself because to do so would imply a sepatation between the mind doing the knowing and the self being known. I try to live without this separation, thereby living as honestly as possible.

2. I am reasonably good at a great number of things. I am not exceptional at any of them, but I am proud to be a jack of all, or at least many, trades. I am reasonably artistic. I am a reasonably good musician. I can juggle reasonably well. I make reasonably nice chainmaille and jewelry. I am a reasonably good writer. I am a reasonably good cook. Just for example. I'm reasonably good at picking up any skill that someone is willing to teach me... and many that no one is... I just decide to learn and do so.

3. People who I think are very special also think that I am very special. That has to say something good about me, if only in the context of what matters most to me. And that's good enough for now.

Gordon, what on earth posessed you to ask this question? Why do you want to read Fruheads stroking their own egos?

I also find it interesting how so very certain so many people here are of their own intelligence. No judgement in this observation... it is only an observation.

I think Gordon's on a mission lately to foment discussion 'round these parts. :)

My intelligence is the only source of self esteem I really have. I don't think I'm brilliant or anything, but I know I'm smart. You can insult my looks or my voice or anything and I'm fine...but if my intelligence is questioned or if I'm intellectually humiliated it crushes me.

Hrm. I guess my three.

1. I'm fairly smart. At least smarter than the average bear. Maybe. :)
2. My silliness and personality quirks tend to make people smile.
3. I have REALLY good vision. I like to scare people with it. :)

Blane.

and... I have great boobs.

dude! talcott is totaly bangalicous!! I'd do him.

that's a fact.  I, for example, am a nerd.

funnygirl smartypants smilyface

I'm both, personally. But more geek.

I'm not feeling very self-esteemy lately....

I am... 1.) Good at Bass. 2.) A music junkie. 3.) Fun to be around (i hope) wow i sound so cocky *hides*eep!

That is sort of the idea of this thread. Gella asked why I started it. Its' because I so often hear Fruheads talking like that. Sometimes we need to see what's good about ourselves. I know you can think of three good things about yourself. That goes for you too. You know who you are.

you keep saying "you know who you are" well you must not be talking about me because I dunno what the frick you're talking about... who am I? .... what am I doing here?

:-)

"So much better than last year's 'Do as we say Festival'"

1) I'm damn funny

2) I can sing, and I love to

3) I am my husband's biggest fan

*sigh* I wish I could be a geek like you! I'm still stuck on 'sorta nerd, with a small amount of hip-ness' I'm even slightly a trend setter! You should see all the people carrying around lunchboxes as purses now! F*ckers.

I wouldn't mind being stuck on a deserted island with Talcott.... so long as there weren't bugs.. and it was warm.. and we had food and beverage... and shelter..

I think he's talking about me... everyone thinks I have low self esteem.. Well I don't! Do I? Do you think I have low self esteem? I think I'm going to go hide in a dark pub, by myself.. and my southern comfort..... :^P

1) I am almost as eclectic and well rounded as I want to be.

2) I am sensitive and caring and people confide in me, which I feel is the best compliment ever.

3)I don't give up easily

I'm such a softy. You didn't post and I didn't do any thwacking.

1.  I'm good at editing , rewriting, and proofreading;  I can even successfully translate documents written in Andyese into Standard Written English.

2. I'm a pretty good cook (I'm sitting on my groceries) and in some cases, I'm a very good cook.

3.  I'm cuter than Pete Best.

Not only are you cuter then Pete best, but you are even cuter then most women I know (Very few women came as pretty as you.)  And you are the bestest proofreader!

Man, I am totally a dork. That's just a realm that hasn't been dove into yet, je pense. In fact, I even have the famed bumper sticker:

I � Dorks!

This can go into another whole realm of conversation... but to keep it on topic, dorks have self esteem issues too. We just tend to compensate for them by being �ber-weird. :o)

Lava,
Rachel Marie (Rai)

I need a bout of this every once in a while.

1. I get good grades... and I've finally chosen a major! Whee linguistics!
2. I like to think of myself as a dramatic and musical person... in fact, I kinda like the fact that I'm good at a bunch of stuff... not a master, but good... good enough to get through the day. I like being a... what's that expression... like, an expert of all trades, a master of none? Anyway, yeah, that's me. :o)
3. I never stop asking questions. Even the dumb ones. ;o)

Lava,
Rachel Marie (Rai) ;o)

1. people smile because i am silly.

2. i can sing in tune.  mostly.

3. i still dream.

 -= george =-

You are also a better drummer

1. I smile.  A lot.

2. I'm silly.

3. I listen.

Shhh, that was supposed to be a secret

Me or Ellen?

well. then. I'll provide three for you.

Lisa:

plays an awesome saxaphone (she's not just 'good for a woman' she's just GOOD

is one of the coolest moms EVER.

recently started drinking scotch.

I could go on--that's just to get you started ;D

George is very happy to sing with. :D

1. I'm helpful and friendly to people, even when i don't know them/may not like them

2. I am a good writer

3. I'm witty.

:)

jen

Have I mentioned lately that I love Renita? ;-) Thanks, babe.  I needed that.

Everyone loves Lisa!

...stuck. I'll think about it and get back to you, I'm having a low day.

OK, OK, fine. Bastard. :P
1. I can sing pretty well.
2. I can write pretty well.
3. I can make people laugh.
Um. Sure. Why not.

So does bullying someone to list there good points help their self esteem? There are some questions it's best not to ask.

There are still some redheads that need to post!

I'm hopeless.

> I � Dorks!

You copyright dorks? Or is my ascii mapping fubared? :)

Besides Ellen and Carey are there any other redheads? 

*cough*jaci*cough*

Zil..but I think she already wrote...me, sorta, but so did I....Jaci, who may be one of 'em....

Fubar. came out right for me. :)

Although, "I copyright dorks" is pretty freakin hilarious. :D

beautiful!

talented!

a good snuggle sister!

I could go on. :-D

1. you's one SEXXY BITCH
2. you's gotz MAD JAZZ SKILLZ
3. you's good cuddlin'

well, i've been avoiding this one for days. still don't feel very self-esteemy, but inspiration seems to be lacking here, so i'll just plow ahead anyway...

1. i'm a good kitty mommy (isn't he cute?!)

2. i make pretty quilts that make people happy

3. umm, darn it! well, i'll fill this one in later.

uhh, thanks for the replies, but I really was planning to come back and fix this... not that i don't appreciate the help! anyway, my third one:

3. i make yummy desserts

my mom thinks she's the bomb digity and I quote.

*grin*

You are supposed to say three things! Say two more. Actually say three more, not being a geek isn't a good thing. Of course you really are one :-)

I geuss I am all about my red head and I can't see past her.  Of course one look at her and you can see why!  SHE IS A BABE!

*scolds andy for embarassing her and asks him to say three nice things about himself*

Well besides the fact my girlfreind is cuter then any menber of the beatles put together?  She is also prittier then Catherine Zeta-Jones!

I am cute!  I am an extremely talented artist! And I make people laugh how is that?

For the longest time I had "I � Canadian Boys" in my AIM profile... and then someone asked me why I was �ing Canadian Boys... Hoo... those were the times. :o)
--Rachel Marie (Rai)

3. You're a very supportive friend

4. You're darn smart

5. You're a great listener

6. You put up with Josh. :) (Um...hi Josh!! :) :) )

7. all the girls on FHDC want you

1. I'm a fake redhead b/c I've known that's where it 's at for years.

2. I work the Pollyanna effect on people (make 'em happy)

3. Impeccable taste in music

Ellen, keep posting so I have more pics of Tork on my screen.  What a cutie.

awwww... I'll cuddle you anytime, darlin'. :D

I want Ellen to post more because she is a cutie!

mostly?

mostly?

HAH.

for a barely-tone, you make the chords RING

How come nobody ever says that about me?

I doono Gordon, men like you make me question my sexuality! 

So, does it defeat the purpose of avoiding this forum by posting to it to say that I'm avoiding this topic?

yep.
Time to answer, or we'll likely answer for you ;-)

Uhm... uhm... *edges slightly away from the forum*

Err...

Why does that sound so threatening when you say it?

It's like jumping into a cold swimming pool. The trick is to just dive in.

let's see...

1. according to frulie i have 'encouraging ways'

2. according to eri-faerie-jazzyberry-strawberry lady i'm sexy

3. well, i -am- the snuggle queen. *grin*

lisa (:

and don't forgot that you have the greatest laugh in the world!

and you make really good cookies!!! *remembers the ones you sent her for christmas a couple years ago*

and you always send me cards with fun time confettie in them!! heheheee I like to caryy around the haloween glitter for as long as I can, occasionaly leaving little glow in the dark sculls in my wake all through the year! yay.

:-)

I'm already answering for you. :)

1) Lacy is cuuuuute! 2) Lacy is a great friend 3) Lacy makes cookies!!!

and there's lots more, yo.

*ignoring for the moment any responses that might already have taken up Talcott's challange*

Er... I thought about this.  Here's an attempt.

1. People seemingly like my baked goods
2. At work, the boss/president currently seems to think that soon I'll know more than anyone else about guiderail (yeah, guardrail is called guiderail these days)  -- I've been on my first job with it for all of a work-week (four days), and I only got 2 hours training, and we know of at least one thing I was doing wrong the first three days.  There are other crews that have been doing guiderail for years.
3. Uhm.... I enjoy getting peole prizes/presents.

There, are you people happy now?

*runs quickly away to handle errands and stuff*

Two words:  Pirate cookies.  Rrrrrr!

okie. i think i've found a couple.

1. i can sing opera almost as well as sophie bevan. *smugness*
2. i bend over backwards for people. seriously.
3. i have a super-kewl english accent. so ner. :)

You sing opera?  I didn't know that, you rock!

1.  I may not be the best musician in any specific way, but my strength lies in being able to learn quickly and be well-rounded and flexible.

2.  I'm always there for people.  Helping people out when I can makes me happy, especially when it entails bringing people together.

3.  I'm technically minded by learning on my own, without much instruction.  I like learning by experimenting and doing, rather than reading out of a book.

 *posts just to add another pic of peter tork* Yeah.  Um.  Fake redheads represent!!

hee! i'm going to be an opera singer when i grow up :)

OOO then I'll have two friends who are opera singers.

Finally thought of two.

1: When I make a mistake, people can often make me realize the error of my ways.

2: Occasionally I can even work it out myself.