Poll: How often do you lie to your spouse/significant other?

Ever.

I'm lying

I told her a white lie when I proposed to her (she thought we were going to Fredericksburg, but really I was driving her to the spot where I was going to propose). And I've also given a couple small white lies when trying to conceal a suprise.

Other than that, I would never lie to my wife about anything.

If you lie to your sugnificant other, then really why are you with them? I had to ask myself the times when I found out about the exes' who have lied to me.

Enhh.

I think your significant other is just like anyone else. Sometimes the best course of action calls for lying.

I dunno. I tend to believe that lying can never be beneficial - white lies are fine ("Of course you look good in that outfit!" for example) but if you lie outright to someone about something of importance, there was obviously a reason - probably that you felt the truth would hurt the person.

But if the truth would hurt them, wouldn't it be even more painful when they found out you lied and felt truly betrayed? I've always said that the truth hurts once, but a lie hurts twice. That's why I won't do it.

Well you just laid out the justification for Michael's statement. Right at the top you say lying can never be beneficial...but white lies are fine. White lies are lies. But we call them "fine" because they ARE lies that are the best course of action sometimes. You can't separate them from the pack just to say the pack is evil. :)

This is not to say I don't agree with you on the second part, because I definitely do. I'm just sayin'. :)

See I think it's wrong to say "I think you look good in that outfit" if you really don't. The only white lies I can see that are okay are ones meant to hide a surprise or something like that. Then you aren't lying with the intent to conceal true feelings or with the intent to cover up something bad you or someone else did.

Even if, let's say someone told me something in confidence and my wife wanted to know what it was, I wouldn't lie and said "nothing" or tell her it was something else, I would simply tell her "Hon, I'm sorry, but it was told to me in confidence and I can't really discuss it."

I dunno, there is a blurry line, but I always try to err on the side of honesty.

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*notes that she would kill andy daid if he said that to her*

I disagree with that, your significant other (assuming we're talking about wife/husband/life partner) is not "just like anyone else". There is a special unique relationship there, one I feel calls for absolute honesty and integrity.

Oh, but lying to other people is ok, then? I wouldn't lie to anyone. Period. No point in hurting people, even if they aren't the most important person in my life.

???

but you just said above that you would.

"white lies are okay"

a white lie, though, isn't really deception - it's a vague enough situation that there isn't really a factual answer. "Do I look OK in this outfit?" is very different from "Are there weapons of mass destruction in Iraq?"

White lies are used in situations where the question and answer are subjective.

but you just said above that you would.

"white lies are okay"

saying they're ok is not the same as saying I would. But that I can accept that people would tell them.

I have no compunction against lying to someone trying to steal from me or hurt me.

Add to that, telemarketers, salespeople who ask for personal information, and door-to-door salespeople.

Where's the "my significant other is reading this and I refuse to answer on the grounds it might incriminate me" option?