FHDC's Birthday

In light of our site turning 5 years old I wanted a forum where we can sing its praises! :)

FHDC has helped me stop being invisible. I was a fruhead, I went to lots of shows, I had a few friends...but I was easily forgotten and didn't ever feel like I belonged. Once this site got swinging and I participated more, people began to know me and recognize me and the invisibility felt less and less pervasive. So...um...yeah. Thanks FHDC for helping me stop hiding and subsequently meet the most awesome friends ever.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

wow. andrea, you know i've always thought of you as one of the cool and popular kids. :)

and. fhdc? is the reason for...everything, pretty much.

Perception is a crazy thing. :) I don't feel that way. But I still feel all intimidated by the people I viewed as the cool and popular kids of fru-dom. Like Chris O' and Josh and Sheryl and Angie and lots of people who don't hang out here anymore. :)

But I still feel all intimidated by the people I viewed as the cool and popular kids of fru-dom. Like Chris O' and Josh and Sheryl and Angie

wha???

intimidated by me?!?!?!

*cuddles andrea*

silly little cute girl :D

It becomes one of those vicious circle things. :) I'm really shy so I tend not to talk to people I see at shows. And thus they don't talk to me, really, which is my own darn fault. But I then work it into my insecurity and it's all "well of course people don't really talk to me, I'm not cool and popular like them!" and so on and so on. :) And then when people I've associated with coolness and popularity DO talk to me I get all intimidated and awestruck because suddenly I'm worthy of notice. It's a really silly complicated neurosis thing. :)� I eventually get over it. George used to cause the same feelings but we got to be close enough friends that I was able to excise my old insecurities.

Sigh. I know I'm my own worst enemy. :)

perceptions just never fail to amaze me :) i spent so much time being the newbie fruhead (and shoving my foot in my mouth on AMMF) that i somehow missed when i became "a cool kid" ;)

what's even funnier... hearing a few years later that there had been this rumour that I was dating Dave-O o.O i mean, not that i'd complain... but where'd that come from??

nah... i'm no cool kid... just shy little whelp trying really hard to "not let 'em see me sweat" ;)

wow, i'm a cool kid of fru-dom?

*faints*

In my eyes, yah!

no,
just a sk@nky h0 who likes to throw herself on unsuspecting menfolk in hotel rooms at Frucon

;)

*snicker*
*hugs*

further proof that first impressions aren't everything ;)

must not be! :D

Damn.... Why am I never invited to these things?

Because you'd enjoy it too much, yo

you never ask...

i have to admit that i can definitely see Andrea's point, just in a different way.� i'm intimidated by all of the "new FHDC people."� i'm being honest & non-snarky for once, so please don't jump all over my shit (as some people are wont to do here).� i'm perfectly comfortable with the core fruhead group from 1998-2001,�people like Sheryl, Chrissy, Adam, George, Marie-Claude, Kath, Fiona, Drea....� Suffice to say, people who aren't by & large all that active on FHDC anymore.� My top Fruhead memory is TONYE '99, followed by NoHo '98.� That whole TONYE�weekend is in the Top 3 best times ever.�

however, i'm intimidated by the core FHDC group, period.� maybe i'm not as intimidated as just given a feeling of unwelcomeness (is that even�a word?).� as the band became less important, i guess i felt like i had nothing in common with their fans.� i wasn't local as the fruhead base of operations (as it were) moved from WNY & TO to the Left Coast.� I felt even more left out after i moved to middle of nowhere, pennsylvania.� so going to hang out & talk w/ other fruheads suddenly became an impossibility.� i didn't feel like i left the community; i felt the community left me (especially with the breakdown & demise of #mf).� i mean, #mf was my home.� i spent every waking non-work moment there.��the #mfers were my family when my own wouldn't speak to me.� and all of a sudden, that was gone.��they were replaced by this group who didn't�appreciate the�stories of, "got up at 7, went to work until 6, drove�3 hours to the show, saw the show, stayed after & chatted w/ the lads & fruheads, got back in the car, drove 4 more hours (almost crashed... twice), fell into bed & got up 2 hours later & went back to work. (true story... Case Western, 11/98).

i don't know what i'm getting at by this point.� i suppose i'm just holding a bittersweet feeling (unintentional fru-reference) about FHDC's 5th birthday.� it's always been my home page & probably always will be, but i suppose it's like when you visit your parents after you've moved out for a while.� it's home & deep down i'm always welcomed, but there's always someone reminding me that my room has been turned into a den.

Happy 5th birthday, FHDC.

*cough*Powerman*cough*

-smatts

OMG CROTCH FADE.

*blink* I don't think I want to know.

*slowly backs away*

-- Pauley

Oh you totally *do*... but you never will.

BWAHAHAHAHAHA!

*sniff* I miss Norg.

you TEASE! ;)

-- Pauley

(*schnugglehuggles* I still wub ya ;))

Eeeeee, I just now noticed the resemblance between Strongbad and Powerman!

... maybe he should get some ointment for that. Or maybe some shoe polish.

dun, dun dun dun dun, dun dun dun dunnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn! dun, dun dun dun dun, dun dun dun dunnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!� doo dee doo dee doo dee doo, do doo dee doo dee doo dee doo! dee doo dee doo dee doo dee doo DEE DOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

I know how you feel about #mf :\

I've tried a couple of times to resurrect it but so far, no dice. Even if I get a bunch of people there, as thrilling as it is, it's not really the same because I had to whine and bitch at them to come to #mf in the first place. :(

You and Paul are some of the nicest people I know.

You are so frickin' sweet. And awesome. And I lament that you aren't an east coaster.

So do I! Especially lately.

i joined the good 'ol fruhead dot com about a month ago, which turned out to be a really good site. (i like the customizable front page, its great). and the forums did good to temporarily relieve me of my need for fruvous, seeing as how i came here after finding out about the hiatus. sad...
anyway, thanks to this site, i can have me own personally reliving of when fruvous was together. downloading the torrents is my way to have those times that i have missed.
if anybody wants to post anymore torrents for me... that'd be wonderful, haha.

I joined fhdc just right after finding the link on  josh, give us cake!'s lj page. Y0e.

It has been a blast since that time. liekomg it hasn't even been a year...wow. This is the best place evah. But what really surprises me is that I tend to post a lot (at least according to my standards ;) In all other virtual communties I have always been more of a lurker... But that's only a proof that I feel �ber-comfortable over here.

Thanks guys. I owe you.

Without FHDC I would have never found EFO or Girlyman or any of you cool peeps. *sniff* Much lovin' to FHDC!!

It was so sad to see the screen shot from when MF was not on hiatus. ::you mean, they were an actual touring band, and anyone could go see them any time they wanted to?:: I got them as a lump sum dumped in my lap *boom, this is fruvous* but you longer-term guys got to see them develop, and anticipate each new album, song, video, and benchmark. *sigh* *wimper*

i hear that.� *sigh*� it was nice to know that someone somewhere was enjoying a fruvous show on any given evening, even if that person didn't happen to be you.� also, i find it funny that one of the birthdays being celebrated on the screenshot is a friend of mine from college who i definitely turned on to fruvous/this website in spring 2000 (hi, pete!).� heh.�

anyway.� YAY josh and YAY FHDC.� going away to college in the fall of '99�and not knowing a soul was intimidating at times, but boy was it nice to log on here in the evenings (or mornings... or afternoons?) and find myself surrounded by familiar and friendly folks.� the support of fruheads got my radio show off the ground and kept me going on those long, dark, sleepless nights before papers were due, and for that i am ever�so�grateful.� i'm a ship in the night around here anymore, but i still log on every day just to see what's about in the forums or what crazy poll someone's come up with this week.� fruheads are good people, with or without a touring band to�ground our musical caprices.� here's to five more years of FHDC!

speaking of birthdays that day, I don't remember if I ever met Katrin, but I know she drew "Waiting For Bob" -- there's a comic on hiatus. :-/

-- Pauley

*snerk*

sorry.� had to :)

I met the love of my life here. what more can I say? Thanks so much, Josh!

what mollie said.

frff is the relationship anniversary, but fhdc is where it started.

let's just say fhdc moved me...to a bigger apartment. :)

This place has faciliated two relationships for me. One directly and one indirectly.� 'Tis good. :)

today is the 5 year anniversary of my 1st visit!

(say it with me - awwwwwwww.)

i got into fruvous through the infamous joshw's arm my friend barb had played some of her father's copy of Bargainville for me. i went on BGSU's local IRC channel and did a who on a few users. the one called "joshw" was fruvous@alpha - and i said, "fruvous? like moxy fruvous?" to which he immediately made me a mix tape. 44 shows later, the rest is history.

FHDC was born sometime in the middle of my touring�and became such a great way to communicate with the people you met at shows, get news and events, and even make new friends to meet at future shows.

Happy birthday, FHDC! we love ya!! thanks for 5 great years, josh & sara!!

Without FHDC I wouldn't be lucky enough to have sheryl as a friend!

esp. since i was a total h0r bitch to you when i met you. *facepalm*

Heheh It's OK, you didn't know who I was. :) We had talked online but that's it.

i think had a few too many mike's hard lemonades that night.

the problem with drinking mike's hard lemonade in canada is - in the US it's malt liquor and it's all of 5% alcohol.

in canada, it's vodka and like, 500% alcohol.

3 and you're on the floor ;)

but leave it to the americans to ruin a perfectly potent drink.

IIRC didn't it launch on the date of "Thornhill"'s release? and I do recall being at the House of Guitars at Midnight to pick it up, and they were playing in Rochester that night for the CD Release... was that the night Potter crashed at my place? Did i mention I was senile? :D

I kinda went on hiatus from the FHDC around the same time said band went on hiatus... grown up life gobbled me up and it got hard to keep up with everything (still does, really... the wall goes on w'out me) What's most sad is, I have dear friends, compatriots, and buddies all tied into Fruvous and FRFF and FHDC *sniffle* and some of them I don't deserve... and some of them *blush* I can't remember when/how we met *cough* Andrea *cough*; but I'm glad we did :D

HUGS ALL AROUND

edit: *Snicker* found my first ever post (I believe)
In bed by 3:30a, Up for work at 5:30am... I must be a FruHead, right? (Aug 11 1999 @ 03:50pm)

I just had a birthday too! 26, Sheryl says I'm old...and she is right. I met Andrea at Frucon IV :) I think it was IV *ponder* I remember standing next to her and Jaci on the floor at the show. My memory is kind of spotty after that *teehee* Oh, that was the frucon where I felt like crap cause I had a cold...and was in like 4 of the Open Mic performances....ahh mamories....errr I mean memories :)

well how do I feel about fhdc?

I was a cheerleader in highschool. and I played 3 varsity sports. and I played the violin and piano. and I designed sets and costumes for the drama club. I was ... who I was, and then my senior year when I was in center field running for a fly I heard it. it was angry and mean, I tried to see�who was talking and missed cathing the ball. no one was around... from that moment on I wrestled with stuff in my head. I didn't go to college right away because my father was diagnosed with cancer. he needed radiation therapy and would be out of work. my mom was nursing a baby, who would be the bread winner? me. so I got 3 jobs and payed the mortgage and got groceries... blah blah. finally I was at USM, for tech theater and studio art. thats when I found fhdc (fall o '99). and I had a nervious break down. it was that good. ;-)

since then I have become one with my crazy bitch ass self. kinda. I'm trying.

the pople here have become like family to me, which doesn't say much if you know my family,� so you're more than that. its hard to explain.

you make me feel important.

but this is where I go when I hurt and you are who I go to when I need to hash something out. and you are who I think of when I think of people I love. you give me support, always. which (until the days of the cott) I never could depend on from people in my "real" life. then I met most of you and now it is even more so. you ARE in my real life. it may seem sad, but I don't have anything like you guys in my maine exsistance.

anyway, fhdc is a good thing.

I have to stop writing about this. I'm getting soggy in the face.

The fact that FHDC has been going on for over 3 years since Fruvous's last show is astounding.

Now, at the 10 year mark, we can celebrate the fact that it lasted longer than Fruvous was a band!

I'm still in the "awkward newbie" stage, but I want to wish FHDC a happy fifth! I'm not sure if I fit in here, or anywhere for that matter, but it's nice to know communities like this exist, and I'm glad to be a part of it, if only a small one. I can tell already you guys are great people! I hope I get a chance to meet some of you someday.

That's the great thing about FHDC, those who fit nowhere else will probably fit here.

Thanks, Nik� :)� I hope it's true.

yeesh, but it's scary hitting the ancient wall archive and finding myself on the first page. *hides*

my first post in the archive was on August 17th, 1999
my first strange behavior on the wall was on September 2, 1999

Now *that* didn't take very long, did it?

well, it took over 2 weeks.

kinda remarkable, when you think about it. *ducks*