> how do I start likeing myself?
I'm not sure I'm the best person to answer, since I haven't shared many of your life-shaping experiences.� But I'll chip in my bit anyway.
With me, it was just a case of taking advantage of a major life change... but I wouldn't call my situation self-hatred.� I just didn't like who I was, and decided to change it.� The decision coincided with my move to college.� I had a unique situation where no one knew me (or who I was).� It was a completely clean slate, and I used it to write the new me.� Of course, I didn't like all of the changes.� I've been a work in progress ever since.
I'm having�a similar problem now with my job search.� Since I didn't particularly enjoy what I was doing, I have better abilities to change things up.� In Bloomington, I couldn't afford to make changes.� In Naperville, I have to make a change... this unemployed thing isn't working out very well. :-)