Dirt

my automatic response is "friends don't make friends feel like shit". i think it's horribly unfair for someone who claims to be your buddy to jump all over you about it. yes, sit down, have a reasonable discussion, lots of "i'm feeling" kind of lines without being painful. this calling you down. i dunno, that's a whole shwack of ass.

i think you're totally right to feel attacked.

friends accept friends. friends don't make friends feel like shit.

yeah, there was an implied hugs in there but I try not to presume about people because I really don't like people touching me that I don't know. perhaps my best bet would be a polite *hugs?*

:-/ ... all I can say is what is friendship? and honestly how did you know you were suposed to live up to her version of it? what exactly have you not been doing? something that she/he deems friendhip entails... what is a good friend? I�dunno. I'm sorry your suposed friend didn't see how the extra effort you're putting into other areas of your life are just as valid as the�effort you can't spare just now with her/him. doesn't mean you don't love'm. there comes a point where you have to make andrea all good and if that means working on the home thing�shouldn't that be okay? I mean I know I'm more than a bit loopy, but sometimes it needs to be about you instead of what�other people need from you.

its hard to be what/do what people want from you. just be andrea. I likes her, she's good stuffs. *hugs*

What she said. :)

I believe a nose-thumbing is in order in a certain someone's direction.

I'm sorry, babe. It sucks when someone you consider to be a friend does or says something that hurts your feelings.

You've got more than enough on your plate without being guilted out by someone who should be supporting you.

...PUPPY! (my weekly photos :)

awww. is it all wriggly?? :) so sweet looking

that is a dear little puppy.

so.cute.

Andrea,

My first response is similar to the ones above, I felt all protective and maternal and stuff... but then, I took a step back...

and I don't know what was said, or how it was said, or the tone of voice used... but.

instead of feeling guilty and attacked, maybe try to think of it this way.

Your friend cares about you, and cares about the friendship enough to say something when s/he is not happy.
it can be very difficult to speak to friends about how you feel about the relationship sometimes.

I'm saying this because I was the other person in a situation like this, I don't know if you remember that. but.

my ending wasn't so good, because she went away feeling bad and crappy--and I thought she was just pissed. and. now things are very strange between us.

but. yah. perhaps your friend spoke to you because she cares about the friendship and sees it going in a bad direction.

*hugs* that's all.

I'm sure it'll be OK someday. I was just hurting when I wrote. I probably shouldn't have.

I'm actually kinda sad that so many responses were all "screw 'em!" That wasn't what I was after at all. I just wanted to be able to talk about my hurt. It's not about condemning the other person, just expressing how much I felt like dirt.� Because yeah, a lot of it was my own doing to get it to that point. I don't deny that. But the hurt still exists. *shrug* You know?

Anyway...thanks y'all for caring but really you don't need to be all protective of me. :)

go ahead and hurt.

*hugs*

love you.

I just wanted to add that this line was a bit angrier than I meant:

"I'm just so fucking tired of not being able to live up to what people want from me. "

It's also partly coming from there being a lot of spats and fights at home. Nothing major but I just keep feeling like I'm letting people down on every side. And it gets tiring.� The timing of fights on both fronts just took everything out of me.