I wrote this long reply to this entry and I don't know where it went.... I thought I added it... crap-a-didly-do!
meltdowns are not bad they're a fact of life. I think meldowns are the culmination of a bunch of thing comming to a head at the same time. things that maybe you werent giving the thought and attention you should have... so they push their way to the front and tumble on out of their own accord. the issues you have is not the problem here, how you plan to deal with them is... and you are great as a kitty mommy and as anything else you really want to be/do. *hugs* loves you.